How to love someone - The best way to make a person fall in love with you part 3

Everybody knows how to love, but only few people know how to stay in love with one person for a long time. Just take a breath and read our steps on 2quote.net. Have fun

 Understanding Love

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Define love. Before anything else, it is important to base your search for answers on a generally agreed-upon definition for the word love. Love may be casually described as a very strong affection for something or someone, although answers will vary from person to person. Chances are you have your own definition of love. Try to put your own definition into words.

Because love is something you feel, looking to art and music lets you feel someone else's interpretation directly. The Beatles are a great go-to in this regard, but there are great songs about love from virtually every era and style of music.

Writers and philosophers have given many different interpretations of love. You may want to seek out their opinions if you're having any doubt with your own definition.

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Consider the different types of love. Love covers a wide variety of positive feelings for an all-encompassing range of human relationships. Think of all of the different types of connections you can foster with people. Most connections have the potential for a certain kind of love. A love you have for your parents or your children is distinct from the feelings you would have towards a lover. It is important to first consider these different types of love, and how they might ideally feel. While it could be categorized endlessly, Ancient Greek philosophers categorized love into four general categories:

Eros refers to a romantic love. This is arguably the first type of love people think of when the term love is brought up.

Storge refers to a love of family and kinship.

Philia is a friendly love, also known as "Platonic love."

Agape was the Greeks' term for a "divine love", relating to spiritual matters.

Love can also be used to describe affection for an object or a concept. For instance, someone may love their car, or their country.

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Distinguish love from infatuation. It is very easy to recognize mere attraction as real love. However, most often this boils down to a case of infatuation. Judging infatuation as love muddles the value of love as a term. If you are thinking of romantic love, this can often refer to a confusion between love with a mostly physical attraction.

Although there is such a thing as love at first sight, it is much more likely that real love will develop gradually.

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Be realistic about love. When it all comes down to it, love is idealistic by nature. That doesn't mean it can't be a part of real life, but you do need to be realistic about what you define as love. Love can feel magical, but it's by no means fairy tale-like or perfect. You can love someone and still fight with them or dislike things about them. At the end of the day however, loving someone means the positives outweigh their negative traits, and you would go out of your way to help them out at no benefit to yourself. It is easy to idealize the notion of love, but there is real-life potential for it in virtually all of us.

Being realistic should not be confused with being jaded or cynical. Pessimism is another kind of bias. Just because it doesn't showcase things in a rose-tinted light doesn't mean it's presenting things as accurately as it should. Take the good along with the bad.

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Ask yourself if you have loved before. How can you really know if you have loved before? Because love is intangible by its very nature, there is no one way of knowing for sure. Instead, take your personal definition of love and see if it matches any relationship (romantic or otherwise) you have been in. It may also help to categorize any loves you may have, be they platonic, romantic, familial or otherwise. If you know within reasonable doubt that you have indeed loved before, the act of loving someone should become more straightforward.

If you don't think you have ever loved before, it is possible your definition of love is too idealistic and strict.

If you are otherwise sure you have not loved before, the process of learning to love will entail keeping your attention focused on detecting new feelings you have not felt before, or at least a stronger degree of positive emotion than you're used to.

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